I received an email today that gave me a new perspective on our journey. I have spent so much time wanting to be a Mommy and have a child that when we chose to pursue adoption, I felt like this baby, our baby would be the biggest blessing in our lives. And that was it. I almost feel like I have been selfish in thinking how our baby would make us so happy and complete our lives. I had never looked at it from any other point of view until today, when I read the following portion of the email I received from our adoption consultant:
"So a lot of busy work in the beginning and now it is a matter of sitting back, waiting, hoping and praying for your birthmother to come along.
Again, I really enjoyed your websites. You are an amazing couple and I respect you tremendously for the commitment you have both taken part in, and that is the journey of saving a child and building your family through adoption. I am honored to be with you on this journey."
Until now, I had only thought of how this baby would save us, from heartache and emptiness. I hadn't even begin to think about the loneliness, heartache and sorrow we could be saving this baby from! I am so humbled, even before we have been chosen, by the idea that somewhere out there is a young woman who is so mature and selfless that she is able to say, "I can't do this. I can't raise this baby the way I want to. But I think you can and I trust you to do this well."
If you are a parent, you may say to yourself, "I have no idea how someone could give up their baby!" Consider this, our birthmother loves our baby so much, she is willing to give him or her to us and allow them to have the opportunities she would never be able to give them. What an amazing and precious gift!! We are all going to be given the unique chance to "save each other"!!
