I am angry, so very angry. I am just plain pissed! How on earth could someone sleep at night knowing what they have done to us?! Why does another woman get to hold my son, rock him to sleep, give him kisses and watch him grow? I am so very mad!
One week ago today was the turning point in our lives. We struggled while we were in the hospital with Nicole, the birth mother, going back and forth in her decision to continue with the adoption. Once we left the hospital, we thought we were in the clear. Sure, we had more ridiculous obstacles to face, which I shared in my last post but we both just knew in our hearts that we were "safe" from any further heart break.
Last Monday, as we were preparing to leave Santa Maria and go to Pismo Beach, where we planned to stay until we got clearance to come home, yet another bomb shell was dropped on us. The social worker who was to work with Nicole and get the paperwork complete for the relinquishment of parental rights called to notify us that Nicole wished to post pone the signing until Wednesday. Immediately, I was sickened by this. I asked if she gave any indication as to why she wanted to wait and he said no but that he thought it would actually be to our benefit, legally speaking, because she would then be under less of an influence of narcotics by waiting until Wednesday. He said he didn't feel like she was changing her mind........he couldn't have been farther from the truth.
We left Santa Maria after a few more bumps in the road and arrived at Pismo Beach, which was absolutely amazing! If you want to go to a beautiful part of California, go to the Central Coast. If the circumstances were different, we could have really had a wonderful time there.
After we got into our room and settle, we continued to have those feelings of being so nervous we were nauseous! We found ourselves saying at some point during each day, "Maybe we should eat something." If you know us, you know that is completely out of the ordinary and an obvious sign of our emotional state. So, Monday evening, I decided to go the store and get some food and baby supplies. While I was in Wal-Mart, picking out diapers, my phone rang and it was Cynthia. She said things weren't looking good, that Nicole was having serious doubts about the adoption and she had gone so far as to ask Cynthia how she could get Jensen back.
I was shocked, sickened and horrified! I put the baby supplies back and went straight to the check out so I could get back to Jon and Jensen as soon as possible. Cynthia claimed to have told Nicole that if she had decided she wanted to take Jensen back on Monday night, she would have to come get him that night. Nicole asked if she could just wait until Tuesday morning!!!!! Cynthia says she told her that would not be fair to us because we had bonded with him and love him and we were not her free babysitters. Nicole said she was going to turn her phone off and go to church to pray about it. She said she would let everyone know what her final decision would be the next morning.
We were once again crushed, heart broken, worried sick and crying as we cared for Jensen all night Monday night. As you can imagine, we were up most of the night. At one point, sobbing, I said to Jon, "I'll never be able to come back from this, Jon. I just can't give him back. I can't imagine our lives without him."
Jensen was a typical newborn and up early. We were on edge as we fed and changed him, waiting to hear what Nicole would say.
Cynthia tried to call Nicole and got her voicemail. She text her and Nicole replied, "I'm still sleeping." Who does that?! Our lives were in the balance and she was still freakin sleeping???? I was beyond aggravated over her being so inconsiderate of our feelings and emotions.
As we waited, we continued to pray for God to give Nicole peace and strength, for his protection over Jensen and our family. It became sort of a chant that we just kept saying over and over. We decided to take advantage of the moments we had as a family and took a walk out on the beach. Jon took our picture as I held Jensen and we walked out into the Pacific Ocean. It is very difficult to enjoy seeing an ocean for the first time while you are waiting for someone else to make a life changing decision for you.
Nicole text us shortly after we returned to the room and asked if Cynthia had called us. We had heard absolutely nothing from Nicole since the morning before. Cynthia had not called us so Jon called her. She said she had just talked with Nicole and that she wanted to come and get Jensen.
I could never be able to find the words to describe what we felt at that moment. I won't even attempt to try to explain to you what it is like to be told that you must give your son back after loving and cherishing him for 5 days. I don't expect anyone to understand what that is like and I would appreciate if no one tried to say they do. Unless the exact same thing has happened to you, you will never know what this is like for us.
At that moment, I dropped to my knees, with Jensen in my arms and shouted to God, "Please don't make me do this! Please don't make him grow up this way! Please let us take him home! God, I beg of you not to tear apart my family!" I can share the words with you but I can't tell you what it felt like without using some pathetic cliche that will never do it justice.
Nicole text and said she was on her way to get him and that she wanted him to be ready. I just held him tight while Jon gathered his things, diapers, wipes, formula, etc. I told Jensen he could be whoever he wanted to be and to strive for excellence and to always try to rise above his situation and be better. Jon wanted him to have an outfit, so he picked one out to send with him. We also wanted him to have the stuffed cow that was given to him as a gift. She text and said she was just too sad to take him from us, so she was going to send her mother and brother. I told Jon we didn't have to give him to anyone but her, legally, so he called Cynthia, who told Nicole she had to take him from us, no one else. When Nicole text and said she was there, Jon turned to me and said, "Honey, we have to go downstairs." Through tears, I simply said, "I can't do this." He put his arm around me and said, "We have to."
We went down to the office of the Inn where we were staying and waited. I was holding Jensen so tight, I thought he might squeal but he was as peaceful as he could be, sleeping soundly in my arms. Jon saw Nicole drive by and she had no idea he could see her. I wasn't looking but Jon says she had her arm out the window and was laughing. That's not how someone acts when they are supposedly so distraught they can't face you.
Jon met her out on the sidewalk while I stayed under the awning of the parking garage. He gave her the bag of supplies, showed her where we had written down the times he had eaten, when and where his follow up appt would be and gave her the cow and outfit. Jon said, "We want him to have a cow from Missouri." Nicole kept trying to say she was sorry but Jon just cut her off. He was so upset.
We had given her a token of our appreciation and something to remember us by while we were all in the hospital. She tried to give that back and I said, "No, that's for you." She may be the kind of person who goes back on her word but I am not. I wanted her to know that.
Jon turned around to me and took Jensen from my arms. He hugged and kissed him and told him he would always love him. He also told Jensen to cry all night, as loud as he wanted. Then, I stood by him and watched him hand this precious boy, our gift from God to this person who has literally no way of taking care of him. I leaned over him and kissed and hugged him so much that his beautiful black hair was matted with my tears. I just said over and over, "Jensen, I love you so much. I love you so much. I will always love you." Jon had turned around and hadn't realize that I didn't follow. When he did, he grabbed me by my arms and said, "Honey, you have to let him go." and he pulled me away from the one person on this earth I had come to love more than life itself.
Jon turned me away and tried to get me to go inside but I was unable to walk. He carried me up the stairs back to our room where I had a total break down. Don't think Jon wasn't a mess, also. At one point when he thought I had calmed down some, he said, "Honey, I know it looks like I'm ok but I'm not." and he began to weep.
We spent the rest of that day consoling each other, sobbing in each other's arms and feeling like we were in shock. You should also know that on that same day, my dad was having a procedure done on the vessels in his legs to open up some severe blockages. I was told later that day that my dad didn't handle the procedure very well and was having difficulty keeping his blood pressure up. He was kept in the hospital overnight and is doing fine now, but Jon had to deal with that also. At one point in the night, I sat straight up and looked at Jon across the room and started shaking. He asked what was wrong and I said, "What happened the last time we lost a baby?" He pointed his finger at me and said, "Don't say that!! Don't even say it!!" For those of you who don't know, the day we lost our first baby was the same day Jon's dad passed away. The realization of the parallels of these events sent me into another hysterical reaction. Fortunately, dad is doing well and hopefully that procedure will be the last for awhile.
We have been blessed to have had some wonderful people put directly into our path. The hospital chaplain, Elizabeth, has truly been a god send. She came to visit us on her day off to talk with us and help us start working through this. She encouraged us to be open and honest with each other and with God as we work through our grief over this. We have kept in touch with her since we have been home.
We don't expect everyone to understand how we deal with this but we do ask that you be patient with us. We truly feel like God's plan was for Jensen to come home with us. As my Grandma Drew said, Jensen staying in California is Nicole's will, not God's. There were too many instances in which the most horrible thing could have happened and then miraculously, someone stepped in to help us. But God has given humans the gift of free will and Nicole chose to do what she wanted instead of what God wanted. You don't have to agree with that, but you can keep that to yourself. We will hold fast to this and believe this with all of our hearts.
We made the decision to come home this past Friday, which was so heart wrenching. We would have loved to have stayed there forever, hoping and waiting for Nicole to change her mind again. But that was not reasonable and delaying our return home was like slowly ripping off a bandaid. It was going to hurt coming home without him, no matter when we left. Of course, true to form for us, the trip home was not without incident. Our flight to Houston was delayed due to repairs so we ended up flying from LA to San Fransisco, after we had flown from Santa Maria to LA. We completely back tracked and ended up at KCI around 12:30. To top it off, our luggage was still in LA, so it wasn't delivered until Saturday. If anything could have gone wrong with that trip, it simply did.
My parents picked us up from the airport and for the first time in my life I was able to appreciate their need to be with me when I hurt and hold me when I'm sad. I said this before that I had no idea how fierce my love for my child would be. I can also say that the intensity of that love doesn't change when you no longer have your child in your arms. It has consumed me and I know for sure I will never be the same.........
I know you want to know what's next, that's the question we keep getting. A few things I know for certain are this, that we must grieve this loss appropriately and respectfully before we move forward. I also know that the love that Jon and I have is true and rare and it simply can't be stopped with us. There will be someone who is raised in our home who will carry on this love and share it with others. Finally, we are meant to be parents. We are both made to love someone else unconditionally and cherish that life for the rest of our days.
Please continue to pray with us as we have many rough days ahead of us. We truly appreciate all the prayers and words of encouragement we have received from those of you who love us. It's totally cliche but times like these show us who our friends really are and we thank you for that.
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Sunday, July 15, 2012
Another chapter in our journey....
I'm not even really sure where to begin here.....many of you have followed my posts and read my blog updates for the past couple years as we have made our way through this journey to have a family. You know that we have not had an easy time of it and there have been moments when it seemed like we were receiving bad news at every turn. None of that compares to what we have experienced the last few days. I will try to give you an idea of what has happened without getting into too many details. I will warn you that this is probably the longest post I have ever made. As you probably already know, this started on Wednesday with finding out that we weren't going to be there when Jensen was born. The next thing we faced was the great United Airline tragedy of 2012 that we experienced on Thursday. Having every flight delayed and spending the entire day in 3 different airports was nothing compared to the horrible flight into Santa Maria! The weather was so bad we had to attempt our landing, that's right, I said attempt, 2 or 3 times before we actually touched the ground!! It was so rough, I almost got sick and poor JP was just absolutely a nervous wreck. I was ready for a parachute!!
When we finally landed and got our luggage, our taxi that was supposed to take us to the hospital to see Jensen was late!!!! As JP tells the story, we were the last 2 people in this tiny airport with a security guard who looked like he was about 90 years old, waiting for our taxi to take us to see Jensen. When the cab finally arrived, the driver was super nice and very helpful. He told us when we call for our cab back to the airport, that we should allow 45 minutes for them to get to us. (That will be important to know for later.)
So, we get to the hospital sometime after midnight, which means we had been up for almost 24 hours. We were so tired and nervous as we waited for them to bring Jensen in to see us. We sat together on the bed, holding hands and shaking all over.....then the nurse opened the door and brought him in to us and we were smitten!!! He has this head full of hair that you can't believe!! He is absolutely perfect and beautiful and wonderful!
I leaned down and with tears in my eyes, asked if I could hold him. The nurse was so funny when she said, "Of course you can, sweetheart!" So, I picked him up and kissed and loved and cried on him and told him I had waited my whole life for him and was so glad to finally meet him. I had no idea you could love someone so much whom you just met! It wasn't too long before Jon came over and put his arms out to me and said he wanted to hold him. Now, we had talked about whether or not he was going to hold him when we got there because he has never held a baby so new. In fact, I think he has only held 2 babies that were tiny and they were a week old or more. But he was in love with Jensen the moment he saw him and couldn't wait to get him in his arms.
If you know us, you are aware that I think JP is pretty great. I mean, he's no angel and I complain about how he doesn't do things the way I want sometimes, but he's my lobster! Not to sound too mushy but we really do have a great love and we truly need each other. My love for him grew by leaps and bounds when I saw him holding our son. If you have kids, you probably know what I mean when I say there isn't anything in the world so special as to see your husband holding your baby and telling him how much he loves him. I knew it would be special but I had no idea how much it would melt my heart!
So, the nurses had the room all set up, with the pull out bed made for Jon and a hospitality tray for us. They were so accommodating to us. Forget everything you have heard about how California people are rude because we will argue with that! We have been treated like royalty by everyone we have encountered....except the taxi driver today. I'll tell you that later.
Jensen got to stay in the room with us for he rest of the night. I was so amazed with him that I couldn't stop staring at him. I had to take my glasses off so that I actually couldn't see him in order to try to go to sleep! I slept for about 2 hours and then I couldn't stand it any longer! I had to just hold him and love him!!
Friday morning brought so many emotions. We were looking forward to meeting Nicole, the woman who was going to make our dreams come true but as you can imagine we were very nervous. Should we dress up or be casual? Will she think we are weird because we will be so emotional? So many questions and uncertainty was going through our heads. Then she tells us she wants to wait to meet us until after her mother is there, in the afternoon but that she wants to see Jensen. We were told to expect her to want to see him but it was so hard to send him away.
So, Friday afternoon we went to meet her and her mother. Their main concern seemed to be whether or not we were going to tell Jensen about his birth family. JP and I made the decision a year ago when we started this process that it would not be fair to not let our child know who he is or where he came from. So, we tried to reassure them that we had planned this from the beginning and Jensen would know all about his birth family. (I don't expect you to understand this but it is very important to us.)
We left from meeting Nicole with a good feeling. She said she felt good about her decision and knew she was doing the right thing. She even told Cynthia that. Then Friday night, she started feeling depressed. I'm sure a large part of that was her hormones and the reality of the situation had started to settle in. She wanted to see him again and said she wanted to spend some time with him on Saturday when her family would be there. What you need to understand at this point is the fact that she was asking me to see him was actually just her being nice. While we were in the hospital, we actually had no legal rights to Jensen. She is his birth mother and only she had the authority to say whether he was going to be in her room, the nursery or ours. So, we really had no choice but to allow him to be with her whenever she asked.
Saturday morning, JP and I both woke up with a bad feeling. It was so intense that we were both physically ill. As the day past, I felt like my insides were shaking. The level of anxiety I had was so intense I was shaking constantly. While Nicole had Jensen, we tried to get something to eat and I got sick. We were walking back to the hotel and JP said, "Honey, I have a bad feeling." He is a very intuitive person and for him to say that out loud just made my heart sink to my toes. It was like him saying that validated my feelings and made them real.
We went back to the room and just waited, impatiently. Jensen was gone for several hours and we thought he was with Nicole. She text and asked how he was doing and I replied that I thought she was with him. She said she had sent him to the nursery to be fed a couple hours ago. We quickly went to the desk to ask what was going on and Jensen's nurse met us in the hallway. She came to our room and told us that Nicole let the nursing staff know that she was having doubts about her decision and apparently her family was trying to convince her she could keep him. When Nicole's dr found out she was questioning her decision, he notified the hospital chaplain and asked her to visit with Nicole. The nurse manager and the chaplain then called Cynthia to tell her what was going on and asked whether or not they should continue to allow Jensen to be with us and bond if there was a chance this would have a negative outcome. They were looking out for our best interests but we were devastated. I can not even begin to tell you what that felt like to hear that Nicole was considering keeping Jensen. We had already bonded with him and were already completely in love with him. The thought of him not coming home with us still makes it hard for me to breath.....
So Jensen's nurse asked us if we wanted to see him again. Immediately I said, "Yes!" I did not care what the next day would bring but I knew I would never be able to live with myself if I didn't spend every second possible with this precious boy. She brought him back to us and we just stared at him and loved on him. We could not believe that after all we had been through it would end like this.
The only thing we knew to do was to let our family know what was going on and ask them to pray with us. The chaplain came in and visited with us for a bit and was honest. She said it wasn't looking good at that point because Nicole's family was making all these promises to her about how they could help her, etc. We asked the chaplain to pray with us and she told us that she would continue to pray that God would give Nicole strength and peace. Last week at church, the sermon was about praying selfishly and how sometimes will not give us what we are praying for because we have selfish motives. I wanted desperately to ask God why this was happening and for him to allow Jensen to come home with us but I remembered the sermon and simply prayed for God to give Nicole strength to make the right decision and peace about it. I just said that over and over and over, all night and all morning.
While we sat in the room, just looking at Jensen, JP reached over, put his hand on my back and said, "Honey, I'm not sure what just happened but I just had a feeling come over me and I think everything is going to be fine." I looked at him like he was nuts and said, "Don't say that! You don't know it's going to be fine!" A few hours later, as I sat holding Jensen in my arms and staring lovingly into his face, I had the same feeling of peace come over me and I said, "Honey, I just had the same feeling."
Cynthia had called us a few times to let us know what was going on. She confirmed what the nurses were telling us but also said that Nicole wouldn't talk to her. This was very discouraging because I felt like her refusal to talk to Cynthia was a statement to us that she was definitely considering taking Jensen home with her. The last we heard from Cynthia was that Nicole said she was confused and needed to rest and would make her decision on Sunday morning. Our hearts were in our stomachs. We were on pins and needles and literally at the mercy of a hormonal 19 year.
Jensen was having some issues with his bilirubin and he ended up staying all night in the nursery last night under the lights. The nursery nurse was so awesome! She said she would bring him to us for feedings unless we were asleep because she wanted us to try to rest. They brought him in for a feeding last night and I took him back. JP said he couldn't go with him to the nursery. After we found out Nicole was having doubts, JP became very guarded with him. I think he was trying to protect himself against the worst. I refused to let one second go by where Jensen was not aware that I love him. When I took him back, he had a hard time settling in. He already has a routine after he eats and he really likes to be swaddled. Of course, they have to be naked under the bili lights and he wasn't happy about that. The nurse said, "Mommy, why don't you try to calm him down and we will try this again." I picked him up and within seconds he was quiet because I already know what he needs. Instantly I was overcome with such grief and despair over the idea of me not being able to quiet his every cry. I was holding him and sobbing. We got him back in the bassinet and I just couldn't quit crying. I knew that loving your my own child was going to be different that any other love I have experienced but I had no idea how fierce it would be and that it would instantly consume every ounce of my being. The nurse quickly wrapped her arms around me and quietly said, "Try to keep your faith, honey and be strong."
I walked back to the room, crying and asked Jon if we could just lay together. We fell asleep crying and praying that God would give Nicole strength and peace. Until this week, I could count on one hand the times I have seen my husband cry. We have both shed so many tears the past few days.
As soon as I woke up, I called the nursery and asked how Jensen was doing. He was asleep but would be needing to eat about an hour later, so I waited patiently for them to bring me my sweet baby. When he arrived, the nurse reported that his bilirubin was fine and he would be ok to be discharged today. I asked her if Nicole had been in to see him at all and she said no. Nicole hadn't asked about him either, which I took as a good sign. I quickly scooped him up and hugged and kissed him, then I let him eat.
We continued to pray and cry as we held this precious boy. Seconds seemed like hours as we waited to hear whether or not Nicole had made her decision. She text me and said that she loved him very much. I just decided I was going to be honest with her and I let her know that we love him, too. I told her that he would always know who she is and where he came from and that we would love him unconditionally and support him in everything he does.
Once again, we found ourselves sitting side by side, holding hands and staring at Jensen. We had received so many encouraging messages from our family and as Jon says, right about the time all of our midwest family was getting out of church, this tiny little Asian woman came in and said she was Nicole's nurse. I think we both swallowed our hearts when she said that. Then she said, "Nicole wanted me to come tell you she wants you to keep the baby but she wants to say good bye to him." Now, this woman was about 4.5 feet tall and JP bent down and grabbed her with both arms and with tears said, "Oh my, that's the best thing I've ever heard. I love you!" I got up and went over to them and we were this big group hug with all 3 of us crying. I said, "Please tell her I said thank you." The nurse said, "I can tell that you 2 are very warm and loving people and I'm going to tell her that, also." So, she took Jensen to Nicole one last time to say goodbye. We let our family know what was going on and asked everyone to continue to pray that she has strength and peace.
Nicole had one last request and that was that after she said good bye to Jensen, she wanted him to go to the nursery until she was gone. We were happy to oblige her. To be quite honest, after holding and loving him, I now know how adoptive parents get extorted by birth parents because I would have easily given her everything I have to take this baby home with us.
Jensen was brought to our room for his first bath, which I'm proud to say Daddy started. He doesn't deal well with Jensen crying, so when he started screaming, he looked at the nurse and me and said, "Honey, I can't do this. You are going to have to finish." Of course, I was happy to step in but I wanted JP to experience that, also. What a memory!! And we got it on video, too!!
We were discharged from the hospital after that. We called the taxi to come take us to the airport to get our rental car. We thought we gave the taxi guy plenty of time, but he was very impatient with us. He started running the meter as soon as he got there when JP was loading the car with all of our stuff. I couldn't leave until I had a wheel chair because that is apparently the rules. When I got down there, JP said the cab didn't have seat belts in the back. I said, "WHAT?!?!?!" So, this taxi driver had me fasten my new baby in the front seat of a crusty cab! I was so not happy!! Then, the cab broke down!!! I seriously can not make this stuff up! As JP tells it, we were broke down and homeless with a brand new baby in California!!! The cab driver said he was going to walk to his house and get his own vehicle to jump start the cab. He wouldn't even use his key to unlock the trunk so we could have our stuff. All of Jensen's diapers, clothes, formula and everything else we have was in this broken down cab!!! I went and got a security guard to go stand outside with JP. As soon as the cab was running, JP reached inside and popped the trunk and started shoveling our stuff out! The security guard and the receptionist said that it was a federal law for a cab to have working seat belts. JP brought everything we have back into the hospital lobby where I was with Jensen. The receptionist took pity on us and used her 15 minute break to drive us over to the hotel that is a block away from the hospital. I walked into the hotel lobby and said, "We are like Mary and Joseph. Is there any room at the inn?" The desk clerk just laughed and we got checked in.
So tomorrow, we are going to get our rental car and go to the place we had originally planned to stay after leaving the hospital. We have just decided not to get worked up over anything anymore because it isn't worth it. We have this precious baby and we are going to enjoy him no matter what!
As far as what's next, Nicole has an appointment to sign the legal paperwork tomorrow. We will legally have custody of him as soon as the state recognizes her relinquishment of parental rights, which should take less than 10 days. The interstate paper work will also get started tomorrow, which is how we can legally leave California. At this point, I'm not setting any goals or making any plans. If I have learned anything over the past couple days, it is that I am not in control here and I am just going with the flow. We will continue to pray for Nicole as we work through the legal process and try to make our way home. Please pray with us because another lesson we have learned is that the prayers of God's people are powerful and we are so blessed to have so many faithful people in our lives.
I know this was long but believe it or not, I have left a few things out. Thank you for keeping up with us and for praying with us. We are so exhausted but we are going to try to rest and enjoy each other as we wait for approval to come home.
When we finally landed and got our luggage, our taxi that was supposed to take us to the hospital to see Jensen was late!!!! As JP tells the story, we were the last 2 people in this tiny airport with a security guard who looked like he was about 90 years old, waiting for our taxi to take us to see Jensen. When the cab finally arrived, the driver was super nice and very helpful. He told us when we call for our cab back to the airport, that we should allow 45 minutes for them to get to us. (That will be important to know for later.)
So, we get to the hospital sometime after midnight, which means we had been up for almost 24 hours. We were so tired and nervous as we waited for them to bring Jensen in to see us. We sat together on the bed, holding hands and shaking all over.....then the nurse opened the door and brought him in to us and we were smitten!!! He has this head full of hair that you can't believe!! He is absolutely perfect and beautiful and wonderful!
I leaned down and with tears in my eyes, asked if I could hold him. The nurse was so funny when she said, "Of course you can, sweetheart!" So, I picked him up and kissed and loved and cried on him and told him I had waited my whole life for him and was so glad to finally meet him. I had no idea you could love someone so much whom you just met! It wasn't too long before Jon came over and put his arms out to me and said he wanted to hold him. Now, we had talked about whether or not he was going to hold him when we got there because he has never held a baby so new. In fact, I think he has only held 2 babies that were tiny and they were a week old or more. But he was in love with Jensen the moment he saw him and couldn't wait to get him in his arms.
If you know us, you are aware that I think JP is pretty great. I mean, he's no angel and I complain about how he doesn't do things the way I want sometimes, but he's my lobster! Not to sound too mushy but we really do have a great love and we truly need each other. My love for him grew by leaps and bounds when I saw him holding our son. If you have kids, you probably know what I mean when I say there isn't anything in the world so special as to see your husband holding your baby and telling him how much he loves him. I knew it would be special but I had no idea how much it would melt my heart!
So, the nurses had the room all set up, with the pull out bed made for Jon and a hospitality tray for us. They were so accommodating to us. Forget everything you have heard about how California people are rude because we will argue with that! We have been treated like royalty by everyone we have encountered....except the taxi driver today. I'll tell you that later.
Jensen got to stay in the room with us for he rest of the night. I was so amazed with him that I couldn't stop staring at him. I had to take my glasses off so that I actually couldn't see him in order to try to go to sleep! I slept for about 2 hours and then I couldn't stand it any longer! I had to just hold him and love him!!
Friday morning brought so many emotions. We were looking forward to meeting Nicole, the woman who was going to make our dreams come true but as you can imagine we were very nervous. Should we dress up or be casual? Will she think we are weird because we will be so emotional? So many questions and uncertainty was going through our heads. Then she tells us she wants to wait to meet us until after her mother is there, in the afternoon but that she wants to see Jensen. We were told to expect her to want to see him but it was so hard to send him away.
So, Friday afternoon we went to meet her and her mother. Their main concern seemed to be whether or not we were going to tell Jensen about his birth family. JP and I made the decision a year ago when we started this process that it would not be fair to not let our child know who he is or where he came from. So, we tried to reassure them that we had planned this from the beginning and Jensen would know all about his birth family. (I don't expect you to understand this but it is very important to us.)
We left from meeting Nicole with a good feeling. She said she felt good about her decision and knew she was doing the right thing. She even told Cynthia that. Then Friday night, she started feeling depressed. I'm sure a large part of that was her hormones and the reality of the situation had started to settle in. She wanted to see him again and said she wanted to spend some time with him on Saturday when her family would be there. What you need to understand at this point is the fact that she was asking me to see him was actually just her being nice. While we were in the hospital, we actually had no legal rights to Jensen. She is his birth mother and only she had the authority to say whether he was going to be in her room, the nursery or ours. So, we really had no choice but to allow him to be with her whenever she asked.
Saturday morning, JP and I both woke up with a bad feeling. It was so intense that we were both physically ill. As the day past, I felt like my insides were shaking. The level of anxiety I had was so intense I was shaking constantly. While Nicole had Jensen, we tried to get something to eat and I got sick. We were walking back to the hotel and JP said, "Honey, I have a bad feeling." He is a very intuitive person and for him to say that out loud just made my heart sink to my toes. It was like him saying that validated my feelings and made them real.
We went back to the room and just waited, impatiently. Jensen was gone for several hours and we thought he was with Nicole. She text and asked how he was doing and I replied that I thought she was with him. She said she had sent him to the nursery to be fed a couple hours ago. We quickly went to the desk to ask what was going on and Jensen's nurse met us in the hallway. She came to our room and told us that Nicole let the nursing staff know that she was having doubts about her decision and apparently her family was trying to convince her she could keep him. When Nicole's dr found out she was questioning her decision, he notified the hospital chaplain and asked her to visit with Nicole. The nurse manager and the chaplain then called Cynthia to tell her what was going on and asked whether or not they should continue to allow Jensen to be with us and bond if there was a chance this would have a negative outcome. They were looking out for our best interests but we were devastated. I can not even begin to tell you what that felt like to hear that Nicole was considering keeping Jensen. We had already bonded with him and were already completely in love with him. The thought of him not coming home with us still makes it hard for me to breath.....
So Jensen's nurse asked us if we wanted to see him again. Immediately I said, "Yes!" I did not care what the next day would bring but I knew I would never be able to live with myself if I didn't spend every second possible with this precious boy. She brought him back to us and we just stared at him and loved on him. We could not believe that after all we had been through it would end like this.
The only thing we knew to do was to let our family know what was going on and ask them to pray with us. The chaplain came in and visited with us for a bit and was honest. She said it wasn't looking good at that point because Nicole's family was making all these promises to her about how they could help her, etc. We asked the chaplain to pray with us and she told us that she would continue to pray that God would give Nicole strength and peace. Last week at church, the sermon was about praying selfishly and how sometimes will not give us what we are praying for because we have selfish motives. I wanted desperately to ask God why this was happening and for him to allow Jensen to come home with us but I remembered the sermon and simply prayed for God to give Nicole strength to make the right decision and peace about it. I just said that over and over and over, all night and all morning.
While we sat in the room, just looking at Jensen, JP reached over, put his hand on my back and said, "Honey, I'm not sure what just happened but I just had a feeling come over me and I think everything is going to be fine." I looked at him like he was nuts and said, "Don't say that! You don't know it's going to be fine!" A few hours later, as I sat holding Jensen in my arms and staring lovingly into his face, I had the same feeling of peace come over me and I said, "Honey, I just had the same feeling."
Cynthia had called us a few times to let us know what was going on. She confirmed what the nurses were telling us but also said that Nicole wouldn't talk to her. This was very discouraging because I felt like her refusal to talk to Cynthia was a statement to us that she was definitely considering taking Jensen home with her. The last we heard from Cynthia was that Nicole said she was confused and needed to rest and would make her decision on Sunday morning. Our hearts were in our stomachs. We were on pins and needles and literally at the mercy of a hormonal 19 year.
Jensen was having some issues with his bilirubin and he ended up staying all night in the nursery last night under the lights. The nursery nurse was so awesome! She said she would bring him to us for feedings unless we were asleep because she wanted us to try to rest. They brought him in for a feeding last night and I took him back. JP said he couldn't go with him to the nursery. After we found out Nicole was having doubts, JP became very guarded with him. I think he was trying to protect himself against the worst. I refused to let one second go by where Jensen was not aware that I love him. When I took him back, he had a hard time settling in. He already has a routine after he eats and he really likes to be swaddled. Of course, they have to be naked under the bili lights and he wasn't happy about that. The nurse said, "Mommy, why don't you try to calm him down and we will try this again." I picked him up and within seconds he was quiet because I already know what he needs. Instantly I was overcome with such grief and despair over the idea of me not being able to quiet his every cry. I was holding him and sobbing. We got him back in the bassinet and I just couldn't quit crying. I knew that loving your my own child was going to be different that any other love I have experienced but I had no idea how fierce it would be and that it would instantly consume every ounce of my being. The nurse quickly wrapped her arms around me and quietly said, "Try to keep your faith, honey and be strong."
I walked back to the room, crying and asked Jon if we could just lay together. We fell asleep crying and praying that God would give Nicole strength and peace. Until this week, I could count on one hand the times I have seen my husband cry. We have both shed so many tears the past few days.
As soon as I woke up, I called the nursery and asked how Jensen was doing. He was asleep but would be needing to eat about an hour later, so I waited patiently for them to bring me my sweet baby. When he arrived, the nurse reported that his bilirubin was fine and he would be ok to be discharged today. I asked her if Nicole had been in to see him at all and she said no. Nicole hadn't asked about him either, which I took as a good sign. I quickly scooped him up and hugged and kissed him, then I let him eat.
We continued to pray and cry as we held this precious boy. Seconds seemed like hours as we waited to hear whether or not Nicole had made her decision. She text me and said that she loved him very much. I just decided I was going to be honest with her and I let her know that we love him, too. I told her that he would always know who she is and where he came from and that we would love him unconditionally and support him in everything he does.
Once again, we found ourselves sitting side by side, holding hands and staring at Jensen. We had received so many encouraging messages from our family and as Jon says, right about the time all of our midwest family was getting out of church, this tiny little Asian woman came in and said she was Nicole's nurse. I think we both swallowed our hearts when she said that. Then she said, "Nicole wanted me to come tell you she wants you to keep the baby but she wants to say good bye to him." Now, this woman was about 4.5 feet tall and JP bent down and grabbed her with both arms and with tears said, "Oh my, that's the best thing I've ever heard. I love you!" I got up and went over to them and we were this big group hug with all 3 of us crying. I said, "Please tell her I said thank you." The nurse said, "I can tell that you 2 are very warm and loving people and I'm going to tell her that, also." So, she took Jensen to Nicole one last time to say goodbye. We let our family know what was going on and asked everyone to continue to pray that she has strength and peace.
Nicole had one last request and that was that after she said good bye to Jensen, she wanted him to go to the nursery until she was gone. We were happy to oblige her. To be quite honest, after holding and loving him, I now know how adoptive parents get extorted by birth parents because I would have easily given her everything I have to take this baby home with us.
Jensen was brought to our room for his first bath, which I'm proud to say Daddy started. He doesn't deal well with Jensen crying, so when he started screaming, he looked at the nurse and me and said, "Honey, I can't do this. You are going to have to finish." Of course, I was happy to step in but I wanted JP to experience that, also. What a memory!! And we got it on video, too!!
We were discharged from the hospital after that. We called the taxi to come take us to the airport to get our rental car. We thought we gave the taxi guy plenty of time, but he was very impatient with us. He started running the meter as soon as he got there when JP was loading the car with all of our stuff. I couldn't leave until I had a wheel chair because that is apparently the rules. When I got down there, JP said the cab didn't have seat belts in the back. I said, "WHAT?!?!?!" So, this taxi driver had me fasten my new baby in the front seat of a crusty cab! I was so not happy!! Then, the cab broke down!!! I seriously can not make this stuff up! As JP tells it, we were broke down and homeless with a brand new baby in California!!! The cab driver said he was going to walk to his house and get his own vehicle to jump start the cab. He wouldn't even use his key to unlock the trunk so we could have our stuff. All of Jensen's diapers, clothes, formula and everything else we have was in this broken down cab!!! I went and got a security guard to go stand outside with JP. As soon as the cab was running, JP reached inside and popped the trunk and started shoveling our stuff out! The security guard and the receptionist said that it was a federal law for a cab to have working seat belts. JP brought everything we have back into the hospital lobby where I was with Jensen. The receptionist took pity on us and used her 15 minute break to drive us over to the hotel that is a block away from the hospital. I walked into the hotel lobby and said, "We are like Mary and Joseph. Is there any room at the inn?" The desk clerk just laughed and we got checked in.
So tomorrow, we are going to get our rental car and go to the place we had originally planned to stay after leaving the hospital. We have just decided not to get worked up over anything anymore because it isn't worth it. We have this precious baby and we are going to enjoy him no matter what!
As far as what's next, Nicole has an appointment to sign the legal paperwork tomorrow. We will legally have custody of him as soon as the state recognizes her relinquishment of parental rights, which should take less than 10 days. The interstate paper work will also get started tomorrow, which is how we can legally leave California. At this point, I'm not setting any goals or making any plans. If I have learned anything over the past couple days, it is that I am not in control here and I am just going with the flow. We will continue to pray for Nicole as we work through the legal process and try to make our way home. Please pray with us because another lesson we have learned is that the prayers of God's people are powerful and we are so blessed to have so many faithful people in our lives.
I know this was long but believe it or not, I have left a few things out. Thank you for keeping up with us and for praying with us. We are so exhausted but we are going to try to rest and enjoy each other as we wait for approval to come home.
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
The best laid plans.....
I wonder why I even bother to make plans.....seriously. As you all know, we are scheduled to fly out of Kansas City tomorrow morning at 9:37. We are scheduled to arrive in Santa Maria, California, around 5:35pm. We had planned to meet with Nicole, our birth mom, after we arrived and visit with her, then get our bearings and take a breath before our baby was planned to arrive Friday morning. As I have come to decide, I had my first experience with "mother's intuition" yesterday. I emailed Cynthia and simply said I wanted to make sure that the c-section was in fact scheduled for Friday morning, since Nicole first said Thursday morning, then said it would be Friday. Cynthia called Nicole and emailed me saying the same thing Nicole had told me, c-section Friday at 8:00am. I told her that that was what Nicole had told me but that I was hoping she would have some sort of documentation to verify the change. She replied that she would verify the schedule change and get back with me. She left a message with Nicole's doctor's office and they didn't return her call yesterday. Cynthia emailed me today saying she called the dr office again and they were to get back with her.
Earlier this afternoon, Nicole was texting me and said that Cynthia was going to call me. Immediately I went straight to panic mode!!! I asked if everything was alright and she said yes. Cynthia called and said there was some sort of miscommunication and the c-section is actually scheduled for tomorrow morning at 8:00. Well, as I said earlier, our plane doesn't even leave here until after 9!! I was so angry and believe me, I let her know that. I won't tell you specifically what I said but I did say that I was extremely angry and disappointed because we have spent a lot of money paying for a service that we were not receiving because of a careless and silly mistake. I told her that we are going to miss the birth of our baby because someone didn't do their job! Even as I type this, my blood is beginning to boil. I can not even begin to describe to you how incredibly angry I am that someone else has messed this up for us.
It would be one thing if there was an emergency and they had to do a c section early but this is just because no one followed up to verify information before I specifically asked. Cynthia, of course, was very apologetic but never once took responsibility for this mistake. Before I hung up, I said, "I don't have anything more to say right now so I'm going to hang up." My mother taught me a long time ago to try not to say something in the heat of the moment that I would have to apologize for later. So, I just quit talking!!!!
Cynthia said that Nicole was genuinely surprised that there was a mix up because she, too, was thinking she would be having a c section on Friday, so apparently, she was just as rattled as we were by this! Can you imagine being 9 months pregnant, planning on giving your baby up for adoption and someone says, "Oh wait, you have to do this tomorrow!" I realize it's only 1 day sooner, but try to swallow that pill when you are in our shoes......or hers.
We purposefully scheduled our flight arrangements to where we would fly directly into Santa Maria for our sanity. I'm not looking forward to driving in California but Santa Maria has to be better than Los Angeles!!! When I received this phone call, saying that everything we had planned for was out the window, we were getting ready to go get a water tank set up so someone could take care of our cows while we are gone. We have a lot of responsibilities and it's not like we can just pack up and go to California. Not to mention the fact that at the time, I had only Baby JP's bag packed!
It was several hours later that we actually got the confirmation that tomorrow is the day and by then, it was too late to do anything. We were basically stuck in limbo, waiting for someone to tell us for sure what was going on. So, while we waited, we decided to stick with our original travel arrangements.
As you can imagine, I was extremely emotional and sobbed for most of the afternoon. I knew that I wouldn't be the first person my baby would see, but I sure didn't plan on being so far down the line! And I guess I'm getting this Mama Bear thing down because I was so worried that he would be lonely as he waited for us. I called the OB department where he will be born and spoke with one of the nurses. She assured me that he would receive extra love and hugs until we get there. I know he won't be stuck in the corner of some dark and dingy nursery but I won't be there and that makes my heart hurt.
I've certainly run the gamut of emotions today, from anger and rage to sadness and then whatever it is I'm feeling now. I knew this wouldn't be perfect but I kind of had an image in my head of how this would work out and this is not even close to what I was thinking. I feel so stupid for thinking this would actually go smoothly. I mean why would that start happening now????
So, as I finish this post up, I ask that you continue to pray for us, for Nicole and for our baby. Tomorrow will be such a crazy day as fly half way across the country to meet our baby boy. Pray that this is the only bump in the road for this process and that everything else will go smoothly. Pray for my sanity and JP's nerves but mostly pray that Baby JP is healthy and doesn't miss us as he waits for our arrival.
Earlier this afternoon, Nicole was texting me and said that Cynthia was going to call me. Immediately I went straight to panic mode!!! I asked if everything was alright and she said yes. Cynthia called and said there was some sort of miscommunication and the c-section is actually scheduled for tomorrow morning at 8:00. Well, as I said earlier, our plane doesn't even leave here until after 9!! I was so angry and believe me, I let her know that. I won't tell you specifically what I said but I did say that I was extremely angry and disappointed because we have spent a lot of money paying for a service that we were not receiving because of a careless and silly mistake. I told her that we are going to miss the birth of our baby because someone didn't do their job! Even as I type this, my blood is beginning to boil. I can not even begin to describe to you how incredibly angry I am that someone else has messed this up for us.
It would be one thing if there was an emergency and they had to do a c section early but this is just because no one followed up to verify information before I specifically asked. Cynthia, of course, was very apologetic but never once took responsibility for this mistake. Before I hung up, I said, "I don't have anything more to say right now so I'm going to hang up." My mother taught me a long time ago to try not to say something in the heat of the moment that I would have to apologize for later. So, I just quit talking!!!!
Cynthia said that Nicole was genuinely surprised that there was a mix up because she, too, was thinking she would be having a c section on Friday, so apparently, she was just as rattled as we were by this! Can you imagine being 9 months pregnant, planning on giving your baby up for adoption and someone says, "Oh wait, you have to do this tomorrow!" I realize it's only 1 day sooner, but try to swallow that pill when you are in our shoes......or hers.
We purposefully scheduled our flight arrangements to where we would fly directly into Santa Maria for our sanity. I'm not looking forward to driving in California but Santa Maria has to be better than Los Angeles!!! When I received this phone call, saying that everything we had planned for was out the window, we were getting ready to go get a water tank set up so someone could take care of our cows while we are gone. We have a lot of responsibilities and it's not like we can just pack up and go to California. Not to mention the fact that at the time, I had only Baby JP's bag packed!
It was several hours later that we actually got the confirmation that tomorrow is the day and by then, it was too late to do anything. We were basically stuck in limbo, waiting for someone to tell us for sure what was going on. So, while we waited, we decided to stick with our original travel arrangements.
As you can imagine, I was extremely emotional and sobbed for most of the afternoon. I knew that I wouldn't be the first person my baby would see, but I sure didn't plan on being so far down the line! And I guess I'm getting this Mama Bear thing down because I was so worried that he would be lonely as he waited for us. I called the OB department where he will be born and spoke with one of the nurses. She assured me that he would receive extra love and hugs until we get there. I know he won't be stuck in the corner of some dark and dingy nursery but I won't be there and that makes my heart hurt.
I've certainly run the gamut of emotions today, from anger and rage to sadness and then whatever it is I'm feeling now. I knew this wouldn't be perfect but I kind of had an image in my head of how this would work out and this is not even close to what I was thinking. I feel so stupid for thinking this would actually go smoothly. I mean why would that start happening now????
So, as I finish this post up, I ask that you continue to pray for us, for Nicole and for our baby. Tomorrow will be such a crazy day as fly half way across the country to meet our baby boy. Pray that this is the only bump in the road for this process and that everything else will go smoothly. Pray for my sanity and JP's nerves but mostly pray that Baby JP is healthy and doesn't miss us as he waits for our arrival.
Friday, July 6, 2012
We've got a date, people......
I purposefully planned a very busy day today so I could try to keep my mind occupied with productive tasks while I waited ever so anxiously for the news of Baby JP's arrival date. Nicole text me earlier today and said she was sitting in the doctor's office, waiting for her appointment. I forwarded that to JP and thought, "Ok, this is it, we are finally going to get something planned out here!" I continued checking things off my to do list as I waited to hear back from her. Almost 2 painfully agonizing hours later, she text and said, "You aren't going to believe when I am going to have the baby." and that was it......no date, no other info, just that! Needless to say, I was shaking as I waited 3 horribly looooonng minutes later for her to say it would be next Friday, July 13 at 8:00 Pacific time. Now, that's important to remember friends because that means it will be 10:00 here....so don't start texting me at 8am in Missouri asking me if the baby is here!!!!!
Of course, immediately after I knew I text JP on his way home from work and told him. Now, some of you may be aware of his intense, all be it irrational, fear of flying. I love to fly so I really can't emapathize with him on this, which means it just irritates me. He is excited about the baby but not about flying which makes this not as fun for him as it is for me. So, say a prayer for JP as he deals with his nerves over flying to California.
We have enlisted the help of my Dad to help us iron out travel details. I am past ready to hand the reins over on some of the details to someone else!! I have felt so completely overwhelmed the past few days that I was glad when Dad said he wanted to help with that!! Now we just have to finish checking the rest of the things off our list of things to do before the baby gets here and pack our bags!
WE ARE HAVING A BABY!!!!!!!!!!
Of course, immediately after I knew I text JP on his way home from work and told him. Now, some of you may be aware of his intense, all be it irrational, fear of flying. I love to fly so I really can't emapathize with him on this, which means it just irritates me. He is excited about the baby but not about flying which makes this not as fun for him as it is for me. So, say a prayer for JP as he deals with his nerves over flying to California.
We have enlisted the help of my Dad to help us iron out travel details. I am past ready to hand the reins over on some of the details to someone else!! I have felt so completely overwhelmed the past few days that I was glad when Dad said he wanted to help with that!! Now we just have to finish checking the rest of the things off our list of things to do before the baby gets here and pack our bags!
WE ARE HAVING A BABY!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
"God never hurries, there are no deadlines against which he must work. To know this is to quiet our spirits and relax our nerves." -Tozer
Ok, so I stole the quote for the title of this post from my cousin Katie....but it is very fitting!! I am having some serious anxiety here!! I received an email from Cynthia, our adoption advisor yesterday saying that Nicole had an appointment yesterday where they did a test on the baby's lungs to see if he is ready for delivery and that she should find out on Friday at her appt when the c-section will be scheduled. I had a brief panic attack at work because I quickly emailed her back and asked, "So, is it a possibility that she could go to her appt. Friday and they would say, 'You are having a c-section Monday.'?????" She replied, "You aren't going to like my answer but yes, anything is possible at this point."
Well, she was right, I did not care for that! My panic was the fact that I probably won't get any information until late Friday afternoon or evening due to the time difference. If they decide Friday to schedule a section for Monday, that means we would have to purchase tickets to fly out to California on Sunday!!!! To quote my niece, Emma, "WHAAAAATTT??!!"
I called Jon and he said, "Well, we'll how are we going to buy plane tickets?" For a brief second, I wished I was a kid and didn't have to be in charge of anything, that my Dad would take care of all of this and I would just skip to Cali with my already packed suitcase and enjoy myself. But, alas, adulthood brings responsibility and having to be in charge of your own crap! Now, I'm not saying I won't call him and say, "Daddy, HELP!!!" I'm just saying the realization of all of this is starting to set in and I feel like someone slipped some meth into my diet Dr. Pepper this morning because I am freaking out here!!!!!!
This morning I got a text from Nicole that I will paraphrase for you....."they stuck a big needle in my stomach to test the baby's lungs to see if he's ready to be born. I will probably have this baby early. IDK yet, will let you know Friday." So, as you can imagine, if you know me at all, that only increased my anxiety.
Last week I called the OB supervisor at the hospital where our baby will be born and spoke with her. She was awesome! She was so excited and willing to answer my questions right away. I have called her again today and left a message so I can maybe have a couple of my questions answered. Most OB doctors schedule sections prior to the due date and some have a certain day of the week they plan those scheduled deliveries. I'm hoping she can she some light on the situation for us and maybe help calm me down a bit. Apparently, this baby is coming and had darn well better get my stuff together and be prepared, ready or not!!!
On a happier note, I have his bag packed and all ready to throw in the suitcase when we leave. We have a travel system, the car seat, two bases and stroller all taken care of, thanks to a couple friends at work!! I am going to go clean out Baby JP's room as soon as I finish this post so that can be checked off our list. We aren't going to purchase anything else until we have custody of the baby with a plan to come home, out of respect for the situation. Again, I am not in control here......
I know I have said this several times but I don't think I can say it enough.....thank you so much for all of your prayers, support and kind words. This has been such a long journey for us and we can not tell you how much we appreciate the love and support from our friends and family!! We have leaned on you, cried on your shoulders and bent your ears for quite some time as we make our way to building our family. We can't wait for you to meet Baby JP and share in the joy with us!!!
Well, she was right, I did not care for that! My panic was the fact that I probably won't get any information until late Friday afternoon or evening due to the time difference. If they decide Friday to schedule a section for Monday, that means we would have to purchase tickets to fly out to California on Sunday!!!! To quote my niece, Emma, "WHAAAAATTT??!!"
I called Jon and he said, "Well, we'll how are we going to buy plane tickets?" For a brief second, I wished I was a kid and didn't have to be in charge of anything, that my Dad would take care of all of this and I would just skip to Cali with my already packed suitcase and enjoy myself. But, alas, adulthood brings responsibility and having to be in charge of your own crap! Now, I'm not saying I won't call him and say, "Daddy, HELP!!!" I'm just saying the realization of all of this is starting to set in and I feel like someone slipped some meth into my diet Dr. Pepper this morning because I am freaking out here!!!!!!
This morning I got a text from Nicole that I will paraphrase for you....."they stuck a big needle in my stomach to test the baby's lungs to see if he's ready to be born. I will probably have this baby early. IDK yet, will let you know Friday." So, as you can imagine, if you know me at all, that only increased my anxiety.
Last week I called the OB supervisor at the hospital where our baby will be born and spoke with her. She was awesome! She was so excited and willing to answer my questions right away. I have called her again today and left a message so I can maybe have a couple of my questions answered. Most OB doctors schedule sections prior to the due date and some have a certain day of the week they plan those scheduled deliveries. I'm hoping she can she some light on the situation for us and maybe help calm me down a bit. Apparently, this baby is coming and had darn well better get my stuff together and be prepared, ready or not!!!
On a happier note, I have his bag packed and all ready to throw in the suitcase when we leave. We have a travel system, the car seat, two bases and stroller all taken care of, thanks to a couple friends at work!! I am going to go clean out Baby JP's room as soon as I finish this post so that can be checked off our list. We aren't going to purchase anything else until we have custody of the baby with a plan to come home, out of respect for the situation. Again, I am not in control here......
I know I have said this several times but I don't think I can say it enough.....thank you so much for all of your prayers, support and kind words. This has been such a long journey for us and we can not tell you how much we appreciate the love and support from our friends and family!! We have leaned on you, cried on your shoulders and bent your ears for quite some time as we make our way to building our family. We can't wait for you to meet Baby JP and share in the joy with us!!!
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